Feels Like The First Time

My title is borrowed from a song written by Mick Jones. It refers to that most taboo of subjects - losing one's virginity. Are teenagers truly prepared for this inevitable stage in their lives? I think not. It is hard to control or predict what any teen will do; especially with hormones raging. Sexual education classes are not always in agreement as to content. Should they wait until marriage or learn techniques that will protect them? I believe in both.

No matter how you see it there is one plain truth. Most teenagers will have sex. As usual I only deal with what is. I always support working toward what might be better. In this case though we must start the discussion with the premise that teens are sexually active. Accepting this is the first step in realistic decision making concerning education.

Young people do not need unrealistic goals or edited physiology lessons. They need to know the truth no matter how harsh. Explain to teens exactly how their bodies work, and sometimes do not, for both males and females. Help them to get over their discomfort. Only once they are comfortable will they seriously pay attention to what we teach.

If we truly care about the welfare of young adults we will offer them options. Waiting until marriage is an option. Not waiting is one too. All potential birth control methods must be explored. All sexually transmitted diseases must be explained in detail. Teenagers also need to know that we support them and will be there for them. Be available to talk or just listen without criticizing or judging. Tell your own personal story. Let them see that we have all been in their shoes.

Our personal beliefs and ideologies must be put aside for the good of these future adults. Objective information must take precedent over subjective opinion. We want teenagers to grow up happy and healthy. Diseases and unwanted pregnancies will be avoided if we do all that we can as we educate. The child you help might not be yours. Treat them as if they were. We are all part of the same family after all - the family of man.