Keys To Our Mind

If we look at ourselves honestly we will see flawed individuals. Not every issue is our fault. There are some cases in which we are victims. Our brains or bodies may malfunction and, for this, we cannot be held accountable. We do the best we can with what we have. When there is something we do not like about ourselves that we can change we should. There are a few steps I recommend when you are ready for a session of introspection.

We cannot fix a thing unless we know that it is broken. This is where perception comes in. We start with a feeling that something is amiss. Certain events do not go as planned. We wonder why. We might even see a pattern emerge. Perceiving that a problem exists is the first step in solving it. We see what is there in front of us and acknowledge its existence.

Now that we know of the difficulty we must determine just how to look at it. There are many points of view one can have. Good, bad, painful, freeing or even not caring are all potential ways of feeling about the problem. We might also see it as workable, confusing or as the fault of another. There are many perspectives one may have.

Perception and perspective work together. We see the problem, we feel some way about it and then we work toward a solution. This is the toughest time. It is easy to ignore or forget about what is bothering you. Myopia may set in. Just as a horse is more easily led using blinders we sometimes place them on ourselves. Remain open to what is and look at the issue from various angles.

I am only offering a basic blueprint for fixing what can be fixed in one's life. Some things cannot be changed and acceptance becomes our only salve. Understanding the difference between fixable and not is a skill that few possess. The best way to start is to face our fears and difficulties and try to see the big picture. There are many things that are under our control. Be strong and empower yourself! Do not let your problems rule you. Be the master of your own destiny.