We hate being told we are wrong. Sometimes it is embarrassing. Other times it frustrates or makes us angry. Few like to feel like their intelligence is being questioned. Reality is that human beings are quite often wrong. We cannot know everything and sometimes our assumptions are based upon false logic. Without being wrong we will never know what is correct. We learn and grow when we are told that what we believe to be true is just the opposite.
Starting with school we are challenged to show what we know. Our homework is graded and handed back. We soon learn how much information we have stored versus what had been forgotten. The best teachers were the ones who did not just mark our papers. They also explained the answers and why they were correct. These instructors encouraged us to discover for ourselves the world of knowledge that surrounds us. Being wrong was the best way to assure that learning took place.
As adults we have many opportunities to become more skilled. Cooking, budgeting and other household skills require trial and error. We make mistakes and learn from them. As time goes on we get better at most everything. Looking at what went wrong is the only way to work toward what is right. Our jobs are no different. Others tell us when we screw up so we can make amends and become more efficient. If we were never told when we erred we would not progress and probably not be employed for very long.
Relationships are difficult enough without good communication skills. I cannot tell you how many times I have spoken to my wife based upon what I thought was true. She acts and I am sure the reason for it. The same goes for her. We talk and discover that in some cases we were wrong about the other person's motives. We would never have known if we did not promote honesty and forthright behavior in our relationship. Creating a safe environment to talk is a must! Being wrong early on led to greater understanding and a happier life together.
Being wrong is a real problem for those who feel that they can never be such. Prejudice and rigid thinking are two ways in which people will decide that they must be right no matter what anyone else says. It never feels good when another tells that you are mistaken in your thoughts or actions. A few people protect themselves from this. They might be highly sensitive or simply afraid of the truth. These souls cannot be moved from their positions. The word wrong only applies to those who disagree with them.
I would rather be told I am wrong than have someone let me walk in ignorance. It is crucial to determine just what is true or best or right. In some cases being wrong can have dire consequences. We not only need information but we need the correct information if we expect to lead quality lives. When you tell someone that they need to think differently please be kind to them. People are more receptive to hearing about their errors if it is done in a non-accusatory and non-critical manner. I know that in what I say I am not wrong... or am I?
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Justice Or Revenge
You break the law, you get caught, you go to jail. For most this will include not receiving two-hundred dollars and not passing go. But life is rarely like a board game. Some who just fracture the law receive probation. Others end up sharing a cell and wondering just what effect this will have on their life. Is incarceration a fitting punishment or a way to damage those whom have damaged others?
Let me get the basics out of the way. Crime is bad. People get hurt. Offenders must pay a price. That price is often a jail sentence. How long that sentence is and what happens during it is what I have a problem with. We treat offenders equally with little regard as to their crime, their history or whether the greater good is served. We seem to deal with criminals from a place of anger rather than from a seed of hope.
We assume that if they do wrong once it will most likely happen again. It is easy to find statistics that bear this out. To what extent though is this a self-fulfilling prophecy? We demonize rather than attempt some form of rehabilitation. We take away the guilty party's every right, their every comfort, as part of their punishment. We act not from altruism but from fear. We believe it is better to hold criminals for as long as possible rather than try and keep them out of prison for just as long a time.
The long-term costs of imprisonment are greater than the short-term expense of various forms of rehabilitation. Time and money must be spent upon education and learning life skills. Counseling to help with mental trauma is good therapy for all. Assistance after prison to help the convict assimilate back into society can only offer positive outcomes. Treating the offender as a human being in all stages goes a long way in making someone want to act humanely.
What I propose is not appropriate for all classes of lawbreakers. Some should be kept as far away from society for as long as possible. Even in these cases though should we allow some level of comfort and humanity. They will be spending their remaining years locked up after all. We certainly do not want them to become greater problems after their incarceration than before. Giving these people something to do with their time should not be seen as a privilege.
Guards, prisons and law-breakers housed within are prices we pay for a just and balanced society. I do not approve of all methods of inmate treatment yet for the most egregious offenders I can understand how strict measures must be undertaken. The families and friends of victims have my sympathy and must be made whole as best we can. This should not include treating the criminal offender as less than human. How we treat the least of us says oh so much about the most of us.
Let me get the basics out of the way. Crime is bad. People get hurt. Offenders must pay a price. That price is often a jail sentence. How long that sentence is and what happens during it is what I have a problem with. We treat offenders equally with little regard as to their crime, their history or whether the greater good is served. We seem to deal with criminals from a place of anger rather than from a seed of hope.
We assume that if they do wrong once it will most likely happen again. It is easy to find statistics that bear this out. To what extent though is this a self-fulfilling prophecy? We demonize rather than attempt some form of rehabilitation. We take away the guilty party's every right, their every comfort, as part of their punishment. We act not from altruism but from fear. We believe it is better to hold criminals for as long as possible rather than try and keep them out of prison for just as long a time.
The long-term costs of imprisonment are greater than the short-term expense of various forms of rehabilitation. Time and money must be spent upon education and learning life skills. Counseling to help with mental trauma is good therapy for all. Assistance after prison to help the convict assimilate back into society can only offer positive outcomes. Treating the offender as a human being in all stages goes a long way in making someone want to act humanely.
What I propose is not appropriate for all classes of lawbreakers. Some should be kept as far away from society for as long as possible. Even in these cases though should we allow some level of comfort and humanity. They will be spending their remaining years locked up after all. We certainly do not want them to become greater problems after their incarceration than before. Giving these people something to do with their time should not be seen as a privilege.
Guards, prisons and law-breakers housed within are prices we pay for a just and balanced society. I do not approve of all methods of inmate treatment yet for the most egregious offenders I can understand how strict measures must be undertaken. The families and friends of victims have my sympathy and must be made whole as best we can. This should not include treating the criminal offender as less than human. How we treat the least of us says oh so much about the most of us.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
No Thought Required
I am continuing on the punishment theme. Two specific situations exist where breaking the rules results in a predetermined reaction. Many schools have a zero-tolerance policy. Some states have a similar statute for adult offenders. Three strikes and you are out applies to more than baseball. In both cases these rules have been enacted by reactionary legislators. What exactly are they reacting to? It is a small but vocal, and therefore powerful, minority of individual voters.
These rules are meant to protect schools and our communities from real threats. Not every crime is committed for the same reasons. Why someone breaks the rules depends on more than a few factors. How and why we punish should be tempered with logic, reason and mercy. School administrators and court judges have had their hands essentially tied. They must do what these laws require or face censure or firing.
Not every student offender deserves to be suspended or expelled. God knows the best place for them would be in school in the first place. In many districts the principal has no choice but to remove the student permanently. This has occurred because a few scared parents helped push through a rule that treats everyone the same. I understand their concerns for their childrens' safety. What their fear has done though has blinded them to the fact that there are differences in circumstances that must be considered before determining proper punishment.
The three-strikes rule has had a similar effect. It is a simplistic law that says after three crimes you will spend the rest of your life behind bars. Again we see that the minority makes the rules. Those who govern are afraid of losing their jobs and so they cater to the few who yell the loudest. No matter if the three crimes were petty the offender will not see the light of day again. This law leaves no room for judges to be just that.
These rules take what would be intelligent people who oversee others and make them into nothing more than figureheads. How can one watch over children or oversee trials if the outcome is predestined? There is no justice in that. Each case must be considered on its own merits. Each offender should be sentenced with a punishment that fits the crime. We must not create rules that simplify the judicial process and promulgate the lie of conformity. We are all not the same!
There is only one solution to this narrow-minded method of sentencing. When the few insist that they speak for the many, the many must speak up in protest. It is only when there is no dissenting voice does the minority get away with creating law that satisfies their narrow world view. Crime is a worry we all share. It touches all of our lives. The solution though is not to create blanket methods for those who break the rules. A fair-minded populace should not stand for it and a true democracy cannot exist as part of it.
These rules are meant to protect schools and our communities from real threats. Not every crime is committed for the same reasons. Why someone breaks the rules depends on more than a few factors. How and why we punish should be tempered with logic, reason and mercy. School administrators and court judges have had their hands essentially tied. They must do what these laws require or face censure or firing.
Not every student offender deserves to be suspended or expelled. God knows the best place for them would be in school in the first place. In many districts the principal has no choice but to remove the student permanently. This has occurred because a few scared parents helped push through a rule that treats everyone the same. I understand their concerns for their childrens' safety. What their fear has done though has blinded them to the fact that there are differences in circumstances that must be considered before determining proper punishment.
The three-strikes rule has had a similar effect. It is a simplistic law that says after three crimes you will spend the rest of your life behind bars. Again we see that the minority makes the rules. Those who govern are afraid of losing their jobs and so they cater to the few who yell the loudest. No matter if the three crimes were petty the offender will not see the light of day again. This law leaves no room for judges to be just that.
These rules take what would be intelligent people who oversee others and make them into nothing more than figureheads. How can one watch over children or oversee trials if the outcome is predestined? There is no justice in that. Each case must be considered on its own merits. Each offender should be sentenced with a punishment that fits the crime. We must not create rules that simplify the judicial process and promulgate the lie of conformity. We are all not the same!
There is only one solution to this narrow-minded method of sentencing. When the few insist that they speak for the many, the many must speak up in protest. It is only when there is no dissenting voice does the minority get away with creating law that satisfies their narrow world view. Crime is a worry we all share. It touches all of our lives. The solution though is not to create blanket methods for those who break the rules. A fair-minded populace should not stand for it and a true democracy cannot exist as part of it.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Reward And Punishment
It is human nature to seek pleasure and avoid pain. Some may say this is a genetic trait. I would argue that it is a learned response to our environment. As babies we learn that our crying gets our parents' attention. Toddlers are taught to be either good or bad. Children learn that negative attention is better than none at all. Each of these life stages involves the use of rewards or punishments for various behaviors. This system serves us the least as adults yet we may never really breakout of this pattern of thinking.
We decide that certain actions are justified based upon the reward we hope to receive. More time is spent working in hopes of a bonus at the end of the year. A gift is bought for a spouse assuming that they will acquiesce to our desires. If our children will stop whining they can have the toy that they dangle in front of us. These rewards are not what they appear to be. There are invisible strings attached that cheapen the sentiment and reduce our self-esteem.
Whatever we do, whether for ourselves or for another, should be done for the purest of reasons. If we work hard the only tangible benefit is a sense of pride. We do for our spouse because we love them. Giving to others occurs because we know what would make them happy. Performing good deeds while having an ulterior motive just makes them deeds; the "good" quickly disappears. Only children give with one hand while holding the other out in anticipation.
Punishment comes in many forms. When we are young we may lose an object for a time or lose the trust our parents have in us. We may suffer a harsh word or a stiff paddle. As we age there is the threat of expulsion from school or imprisonment behind steel bars. I should know better than anyone what punishment can bring. I also know that no punishment was worse than the guilt I put myself through. As adults we need to rise above this simplistic view and treat ourselves with greater compassion.
We make mistakes all the time. Errors in judgment, lack of foresight or forgetting to use due diligence are our stumbling blocks. Not every error should be approached as a reason to punish ourselves. Regret and guilt serve no good purpose other than to make us feel even worse. I used to assume that when I screwed up there should be a price to pay. Christine, my wife, taught me that mistakes should not be blown out of proportion. We must learn and move on. Flogging ourselves mentally only adds to the preexisting scars from our past.
It would help us as adults if we changed the way we define and justify our system of rewards and punishments. Our children would grow up more self-actualized. Teenagers could be more self-confident and self-assured. As adults we could act in more honest and enlightened ways. Much of our thinking and reasoning develops early on but changes little over time. The areas I mentioned are great places to start examining our preconceived notions of self and others. Give because it pleases you first and foremost. Do for others what helps rather than hurts. Become greater than the sum of your own parts.
We decide that certain actions are justified based upon the reward we hope to receive. More time is spent working in hopes of a bonus at the end of the year. A gift is bought for a spouse assuming that they will acquiesce to our desires. If our children will stop whining they can have the toy that they dangle in front of us. These rewards are not what they appear to be. There are invisible strings attached that cheapen the sentiment and reduce our self-esteem.
Whatever we do, whether for ourselves or for another, should be done for the purest of reasons. If we work hard the only tangible benefit is a sense of pride. We do for our spouse because we love them. Giving to others occurs because we know what would make them happy. Performing good deeds while having an ulterior motive just makes them deeds; the "good" quickly disappears. Only children give with one hand while holding the other out in anticipation.
Punishment comes in many forms. When we are young we may lose an object for a time or lose the trust our parents have in us. We may suffer a harsh word or a stiff paddle. As we age there is the threat of expulsion from school or imprisonment behind steel bars. I should know better than anyone what punishment can bring. I also know that no punishment was worse than the guilt I put myself through. As adults we need to rise above this simplistic view and treat ourselves with greater compassion.
We make mistakes all the time. Errors in judgment, lack of foresight or forgetting to use due diligence are our stumbling blocks. Not every error should be approached as a reason to punish ourselves. Regret and guilt serve no good purpose other than to make us feel even worse. I used to assume that when I screwed up there should be a price to pay. Christine, my wife, taught me that mistakes should not be blown out of proportion. We must learn and move on. Flogging ourselves mentally only adds to the preexisting scars from our past.
It would help us as adults if we changed the way we define and justify our system of rewards and punishments. Our children would grow up more self-actualized. Teenagers could be more self-confident and self-assured. As adults we could act in more honest and enlightened ways. Much of our thinking and reasoning develops early on but changes little over time. The areas I mentioned are great places to start examining our preconceived notions of self and others. Give because it pleases you first and foremost. Do for others what helps rather than hurts. Become greater than the sum of your own parts.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Release The Mind
We may not be organized people. Getting our schedules straight can be difficult. Our minds crave organization. Healthy minds must be able to prioritize thoughts and feelings. Our actions must make sense, if not to others, then at least to ourselves. For this reason we often perform many tasks by rote. How often do you think about your mental habits? The things we do may not bring us pleasure yet we do what has become natural. It is time to unshackle the mind and free ourselves from behavior that serves no good purpose.
Behaviors are learned over time. As children we are taught simple tasks to perform as well as what activities will hurt us. As we grow we repeat behaviors we develop through learning, imitation and adaptation. We do things we hope will provide us desired results. We grow and change yet our reasons for what we do stay the same. We give little thought to how we actually feel as we accomplish daily tasks.
There are some simple reasons for our habitual actions. Let me offer some examples to put this into perspective. A floor is cleaned in the same way our mothers taught us. They may not have explained why, or even if there might be, a less laborious method. We balance our checkbook using monthly statements sent in the mail. It is a task that causes stress. We could more easily balance it via a computer application. We do not as we are more comfortable with our older method despite the mental anguish it brings.
There is an old saying: The devil you know is better than the devil you do not. Okay, I am paraphrasing a bit. What this means is that fear keeps us doing and being who we are because the alternative may be even worse. We become too comfortable. Our behaviors and ways of thinking do not change because they are familiar and easier than the work it would take to change them. Believe it or not it takes less work than you realize.
For many years I had organized my time in much the same way. As soon as I noticed something amiss I felt that I had to handle it immediately. When a plate was used it must then be washed. When mail arrives it must be read and sorted. Each behavior had to be done in precisely the same order each and every day. I felt so constricted. I finally realized that I could group similar tasks together. I could also perform them when it worked best for me. I was so used to doing things the way I always had that I was blind to the stress and pain it caused me.
I told myself that I am an adult. No matter how I had been taught how to do things I was the boss. Regardless of how others might criticize me I make my own rules. I had to decide what worked best for me. How could I reduce my stress and increase my happiness? We are brought up with a sense of right and wrong. It is a strong influence on our behaviors. I now see that I decide what is right and wrong for me and my life. As long as I am not hurting anyone else I can do whatever I want however I want.
We never forget all of the advice we receive. Unconstructive criticism stays with us. The voices from our past cannot be allowed to negatively influence who we are today. We are mature individuals. Who else should decide what is best for us? We alone create our life's goals and deserve credit for our success. If we fail we must be good to ourselves. Learning from mistakes and moving on to try again is the mark of wisdom. Let no one else judge you when you do not live up to their standards. Your expectations of yourself is the only yardstick you need.
My advice is true for small daily tasks and larger life decisions. How we see ourselves matters more than anything else. When we change from what is comfortable to what is new, be it chores or major life changes, pain is involved. Do not let that pain stop you from making your life better. Self-nurturing and self-love are the keys to happiness. Listen to your heart and be honest with yourself. Be released from old habits and defeating behaviors and discover the better life that awaits you!
Behaviors are learned over time. As children we are taught simple tasks to perform as well as what activities will hurt us. As we grow we repeat behaviors we develop through learning, imitation and adaptation. We do things we hope will provide us desired results. We grow and change yet our reasons for what we do stay the same. We give little thought to how we actually feel as we accomplish daily tasks.
There are some simple reasons for our habitual actions. Let me offer some examples to put this into perspective. A floor is cleaned in the same way our mothers taught us. They may not have explained why, or even if there might be, a less laborious method. We balance our checkbook using monthly statements sent in the mail. It is a task that causes stress. We could more easily balance it via a computer application. We do not as we are more comfortable with our older method despite the mental anguish it brings.
There is an old saying: The devil you know is better than the devil you do not. Okay, I am paraphrasing a bit. What this means is that fear keeps us doing and being who we are because the alternative may be even worse. We become too comfortable. Our behaviors and ways of thinking do not change because they are familiar and easier than the work it would take to change them. Believe it or not it takes less work than you realize.
For many years I had organized my time in much the same way. As soon as I noticed something amiss I felt that I had to handle it immediately. When a plate was used it must then be washed. When mail arrives it must be read and sorted. Each behavior had to be done in precisely the same order each and every day. I felt so constricted. I finally realized that I could group similar tasks together. I could also perform them when it worked best for me. I was so used to doing things the way I always had that I was blind to the stress and pain it caused me.
I told myself that I am an adult. No matter how I had been taught how to do things I was the boss. Regardless of how others might criticize me I make my own rules. I had to decide what worked best for me. How could I reduce my stress and increase my happiness? We are brought up with a sense of right and wrong. It is a strong influence on our behaviors. I now see that I decide what is right and wrong for me and my life. As long as I am not hurting anyone else I can do whatever I want however I want.
We never forget all of the advice we receive. Unconstructive criticism stays with us. The voices from our past cannot be allowed to negatively influence who we are today. We are mature individuals. Who else should decide what is best for us? We alone create our life's goals and deserve credit for our success. If we fail we must be good to ourselves. Learning from mistakes and moving on to try again is the mark of wisdom. Let no one else judge you when you do not live up to their standards. Your expectations of yourself is the only yardstick you need.
My advice is true for small daily tasks and larger life decisions. How we see ourselves matters more than anything else. When we change from what is comfortable to what is new, be it chores or major life changes, pain is involved. Do not let that pain stop you from making your life better. Self-nurturing and self-love are the keys to happiness. Listen to your heart and be honest with yourself. Be released from old habits and defeating behaviors and discover the better life that awaits you!
Monday, September 7, 2009
The End To Pain
There are still subjects that are not broached in polite company. Most of us will die of natural causes. Some die due to an accident or violent crime. There are a select few that choose the date of their death. Suicide, though technically illegal, is an option chosen by some. It is chosen for reasons only known to the deceased. There are cases in which it is not a cowardly act but one of compassion toward the self.
It is not so hard to understand great pain. As we travel life's road we have our share of less than happy moments. Sometimes the pain lasts for hours and sometimes for an indeterminable amount of time. Many of us have, in our sorrow, entertained thoughts of suicide. What kept us from making such a fatal decision? I hope to offer suggestions as to why some felt that ending their life was their only option.
I am a fighter. No matter how bad things get I try to find reasons for hope. I look to all the things that make my life worthwhile. There are some who, I presume, see only the darkness. They see existence as futile. No matter what outsiders may offer as reasons for optimism they only see the precipice. Our mindsets only change when we have good reason to do so.
Strength is another factor in suicides. Pain, be it mental, emotional or physical, takes a certain level of inner fortitude to overcome. It seems contradictory. It takes strength to deal with our hurts. It takes hurtful experiences to develop strength. I would imagine that for suicide victims their well of strength ran dry just when they most needed to take a sip.
I sometimes need to spend time alone but eventually I emerge from my shell and talk to the person whom I love and trust. My wife is always there for me and I am there for her. We have shared a relationship for nearly seventeen years. We are each others support system. Not all who need it have someone caring to go to when life seems the most harsh. Without that caring voice to comfort and guide many choose the final option.
We all have times when we feel down or blue. Life is not something that we can predict to the extent we would like. Events occur that are beyond our control. If you feel like suicide is inevitable I hope that you will reconsider. Our perspective can be changed if we find the right person to offer solace, words of wisdom and comfort. Preventing suicide can be as easy as clicking this sentence. One phone call may be all you need to turn your life around.
It is not so hard to understand great pain. As we travel life's road we have our share of less than happy moments. Sometimes the pain lasts for hours and sometimes for an indeterminable amount of time. Many of us have, in our sorrow, entertained thoughts of suicide. What kept us from making such a fatal decision? I hope to offer suggestions as to why some felt that ending their life was their only option.
I am a fighter. No matter how bad things get I try to find reasons for hope. I look to all the things that make my life worthwhile. There are some who, I presume, see only the darkness. They see existence as futile. No matter what outsiders may offer as reasons for optimism they only see the precipice. Our mindsets only change when we have good reason to do so.
Strength is another factor in suicides. Pain, be it mental, emotional or physical, takes a certain level of inner fortitude to overcome. It seems contradictory. It takes strength to deal with our hurts. It takes hurtful experiences to develop strength. I would imagine that for suicide victims their well of strength ran dry just when they most needed to take a sip.
I sometimes need to spend time alone but eventually I emerge from my shell and talk to the person whom I love and trust. My wife is always there for me and I am there for her. We have shared a relationship for nearly seventeen years. We are each others support system. Not all who need it have someone caring to go to when life seems the most harsh. Without that caring voice to comfort and guide many choose the final option.
We all have times when we feel down or blue. Life is not something that we can predict to the extent we would like. Events occur that are beyond our control. If you feel like suicide is inevitable I hope that you will reconsider. Our perspective can be changed if we find the right person to offer solace, words of wisdom and comfort. Preventing suicide can be as easy as clicking this sentence. One phone call may be all you need to turn your life around.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Can't We All Just Get Along?
The title may be trite but the sentiment is heartfelt. Near my home is a billboard that warns against the evils of Atheism. Apparently some Christian group is worried about people's lack of faith or belief in God. I have also noticed a similar sentiment in secular-humanism publications that tend to blame society's ills on the rise of religion in general and Christianity in specific. Where does it end? In reality not all members of each group see the other as a threat.
Contrary to popular belief tolerance is practiced by those whom have strong faith in their particular set of personal beliefs. Not all Christians feel the need to rush out and evangelize to non-believers. There are many Atheists who accept those with religious beliefs as otherwise intelligent beings. The problem starts when those on the fringes of any movement look to rally their followers by finding an outside group to demonize.
Yes, I am a Christian. I have strongly held beliefs based upon my interpretation of the Bible and my own understanding of God. I would never profess to know what is right for another. The best I can do is help guide a person to seek knowledge for themselves. If they discover what they sought I am thrilled. If it is not what I thought it would be I do not take offense. Each and every person must seek the truth in their own way.
Not all Christians hold the same world view. These individuals believe that there is but one path to heaven and that path can only lead to Jesus Christ. This is the basis of Christianity I admit. I am not so cocksure that I would decry any other belief systems though. Yet some see Atheism as threatening. They see it as some kind of detour which will cause us to become lost on the road to salvation. It is treated as some kind of disease. They have taken up the sword of righteousness in preparation for holy combat.
What is the real threat in this scenario? I believe that the "detour" I mentioned is but a red herring. The fear is real I am sure. What it stems from is their own doubt. When one is confident about one's beliefs then one's foundation is unshakable. But if a person is regularly wrestling with their doubts they will see anything that confirms them as an invader; much the way white blood cells attack foreign pathogens in the body. They hate what Atheists profess because, in their heart of hearts, they see a nugget of truth in it. This shakes them to their very core.
Oftentimes Secular-Humanists are also Atheists. There are mainstream periodicals, such as The Humanist, that regularly discuss issues important to the secularist. I agree with many of the tenants of this group. People should do what they can to take care of others through compassion, reason and logic. We should care not only for each other but for those with no voice such as animals and the environment. Politics and religion both should keep to the sidelines as everyday humans try to work out their differences amongst themselves. It is all about doing the right thing.
Doing what is best is oftentimes hampered by religious zealots according to members of the Humanist mindset. Humanists want to do what is best in their worlds and communities but must contend with religious roadblocks. I have read numerous articles which usually ended with the blame squarely being placed upon the shoulders of the Christian community. In some cases it is suggested that certain problems would not even exist if it were not for meddling by members of the "far right." Science cannot prove the existence of God and therefore, whatever is done in His name, must be a lie.
I got an overall feeling from reading a year's worth of The Humanist. If that magazine is any indication then religion is not the problem. Atheists seem to be sure that once you die there is nothing whatsoever. There is no life and no existence. I truly think that the issue is frustration. Religion is a large part of many people's lives. It is reflected in every aspect of our culture. From saying "God bless you" to displaying creches during Christmas, religious imagery and symbolism is all around us. Some Atheists are just mad as hell that they should be exposed to what they are so sure is an illusion. Their level of tolerance is about that of a two-year old child.
All of the reasons I gave for each side hating the other are just semantics. The real basis for all of this intolerance is as old as time itself. Each group needs some other group to be their enemy. They need a faceless cause to fight against. This not only emboldens them but gives meaning to their very existence. If they were not fighting their perceived enemy they would probably be fighting against each other. I have no doubt that, due to varying degrees of Atheism and Christianity, there is much infighting already going on.
Not everyone within a group hold exactly the same set of beliefs. Each member may not feel the same way about the tenants of the group nor about how their goals should be achieved; or even what those goals are. Who really benefits from the polarization that goes on within these subcultures? Think about it for a moment. No really, go ahead, I will wait. The leaders do. They are the ones who created these organizations, made the rules and keep the people together under one banner. They have all done so with one simple reason: Power!
Power corrupts to be sure. What scares me though is that these mini-dictators were probably corrupt to begin with. These few could not get what they craved from ordinary citizens so they got the bright idea to anoint themselves and gather their followers. They did so under the guise of righteousness and the mandate of fighting those who they deemed to be threats. I may be getting off the track here somewhat but I suggest that this is not limited to extreme Humanist or Christian organizations. Arguments could be made from Scientology to Falun Gong. There will always be those in power who care little for the cause but only for themselves.
Getting back to the subject at hand I hope that secularists and religious people can work together for the common good. It may surprise them to learn that what both groups want is very similar in nature. It is only the means to achieve these goals that may differ. We should cross the aisle and shake hands with our neighbor. It is imperative we put aside our old assumptions about each other and openly and peacefully discuss our mutual concerns. We are more powerful united as one force for change than divided and working at cross-purposes. We are more alike than different no matter what propaganda you may have heard as of late.
Belief or non-belief in a deity should not automatically exclude someone from any group or from any mission to do good works. Causing pain and violence are real threats. Having thoughts that differ from another is not. We must learn to understand the difference. Not every thought translates into an action. Not every action translates into a negative outcome. Getting along is a good mantra for all of us. Let us tear down the proverbial fence, talk to one another and walk the path of goodness and humanity together!
Contrary to popular belief tolerance is practiced by those whom have strong faith in their particular set of personal beliefs. Not all Christians feel the need to rush out and evangelize to non-believers. There are many Atheists who accept those with religious beliefs as otherwise intelligent beings. The problem starts when those on the fringes of any movement look to rally their followers by finding an outside group to demonize.
Yes, I am a Christian. I have strongly held beliefs based upon my interpretation of the Bible and my own understanding of God. I would never profess to know what is right for another. The best I can do is help guide a person to seek knowledge for themselves. If they discover what they sought I am thrilled. If it is not what I thought it would be I do not take offense. Each and every person must seek the truth in their own way.
Not all Christians hold the same world view. These individuals believe that there is but one path to heaven and that path can only lead to Jesus Christ. This is the basis of Christianity I admit. I am not so cocksure that I would decry any other belief systems though. Yet some see Atheism as threatening. They see it as some kind of detour which will cause us to become lost on the road to salvation. It is treated as some kind of disease. They have taken up the sword of righteousness in preparation for holy combat.
What is the real threat in this scenario? I believe that the "detour" I mentioned is but a red herring. The fear is real I am sure. What it stems from is their own doubt. When one is confident about one's beliefs then one's foundation is unshakable. But if a person is regularly wrestling with their doubts they will see anything that confirms them as an invader; much the way white blood cells attack foreign pathogens in the body. They hate what Atheists profess because, in their heart of hearts, they see a nugget of truth in it. This shakes them to their very core.
Oftentimes Secular-Humanists are also Atheists. There are mainstream periodicals, such as The Humanist, that regularly discuss issues important to the secularist. I agree with many of the tenants of this group. People should do what they can to take care of others through compassion, reason and logic. We should care not only for each other but for those with no voice such as animals and the environment. Politics and religion both should keep to the sidelines as everyday humans try to work out their differences amongst themselves. It is all about doing the right thing.
Doing what is best is oftentimes hampered by religious zealots according to members of the Humanist mindset. Humanists want to do what is best in their worlds and communities but must contend with religious roadblocks. I have read numerous articles which usually ended with the blame squarely being placed upon the shoulders of the Christian community. In some cases it is suggested that certain problems would not even exist if it were not for meddling by members of the "far right." Science cannot prove the existence of God and therefore, whatever is done in His name, must be a lie.
I got an overall feeling from reading a year's worth of The Humanist. If that magazine is any indication then religion is not the problem. Atheists seem to be sure that once you die there is nothing whatsoever. There is no life and no existence. I truly think that the issue is frustration. Religion is a large part of many people's lives. It is reflected in every aspect of our culture. From saying "God bless you" to displaying creches during Christmas, religious imagery and symbolism is all around us. Some Atheists are just mad as hell that they should be exposed to what they are so sure is an illusion. Their level of tolerance is about that of a two-year old child.
All of the reasons I gave for each side hating the other are just semantics. The real basis for all of this intolerance is as old as time itself. Each group needs some other group to be their enemy. They need a faceless cause to fight against. This not only emboldens them but gives meaning to their very existence. If they were not fighting their perceived enemy they would probably be fighting against each other. I have no doubt that, due to varying degrees of Atheism and Christianity, there is much infighting already going on.
Not everyone within a group hold exactly the same set of beliefs. Each member may not feel the same way about the tenants of the group nor about how their goals should be achieved; or even what those goals are. Who really benefits from the polarization that goes on within these subcultures? Think about it for a moment. No really, go ahead, I will wait. The leaders do. They are the ones who created these organizations, made the rules and keep the people together under one banner. They have all done so with one simple reason: Power!
Power corrupts to be sure. What scares me though is that these mini-dictators were probably corrupt to begin with. These few could not get what they craved from ordinary citizens so they got the bright idea to anoint themselves and gather their followers. They did so under the guise of righteousness and the mandate of fighting those who they deemed to be threats. I may be getting off the track here somewhat but I suggest that this is not limited to extreme Humanist or Christian organizations. Arguments could be made from Scientology to Falun Gong. There will always be those in power who care little for the cause but only for themselves.
Getting back to the subject at hand I hope that secularists and religious people can work together for the common good. It may surprise them to learn that what both groups want is very similar in nature. It is only the means to achieve these goals that may differ. We should cross the aisle and shake hands with our neighbor. It is imperative we put aside our old assumptions about each other and openly and peacefully discuss our mutual concerns. We are more powerful united as one force for change than divided and working at cross-purposes. We are more alike than different no matter what propaganda you may have heard as of late.
Belief or non-belief in a deity should not automatically exclude someone from any group or from any mission to do good works. Causing pain and violence are real threats. Having thoughts that differ from another is not. We must learn to understand the difference. Not every thought translates into an action. Not every action translates into a negative outcome. Getting along is a good mantra for all of us. Let us tear down the proverbial fence, talk to one another and walk the path of goodness and humanity together!
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Less Of A Man
Sometimes we must resign ourselves to a certain reality. My time of reckoning came today. I now have a third leg. It is not what you think. I did not have a third appendage attached just to look cool. What I did cost only a few dollars and will help me walk more securely. I picked up a cane at the local durable goods store.
My rheumatologist provided me with a script for a walking aid. I was none too thrilled to say the least. My wife, Christine, explained to me that it really was in my best interest to use one. I admit that I have not been very steady on my feet lately. Despite this fact I really did not want to stand out in public.
I put off filling the script for weeks. I figured that I would get better as soon as my medication reached a "clinical dosage" whatever that means. Needless to say I never reached it. As I dealt with my infirmity I happened to notice that there are quite a few people who use canes. "Maybe this will not be so bad?" I told myself.
I finally decided the time had come to do what was best for myself. I got the cane and it is not so bad. I actually walk better than before. My posture is much better as well. I am slower now, especially due to my getting used to using it, but I am a fast learner. Could it be that what seemed so horrible might actually be good for me? A cane, maybe? Brussels sprouts, no way!
My point is, and I do have one, is that we must sometimes put aside our pride and take a leap of faith. I am not alone when it comes to those who must compensate for what their bodies lack. Wheelchairs, walkers and other devices enable us to still reach our full potentials. I am trying not to see the cane as emasculating but as empowering. People actually seem to show more respect toward me and allow me to get to where I need to go.
It is always hard to get older. It is hard to accept that time is not a kind mistress. We all must face this fact or hide in a corner and wait for death's arrival. Please do whatever you must to make your life better. Be it a cane, a prescription medication or better reading glasses. The sooner you do the happier you will be as you go back to doing what makes you happy. Who knows? Maybe with my new cane I will become the first Jewish pimp? Right on!
My rheumatologist provided me with a script for a walking aid. I was none too thrilled to say the least. My wife, Christine, explained to me that it really was in my best interest to use one. I admit that I have not been very steady on my feet lately. Despite this fact I really did not want to stand out in public.
I put off filling the script for weeks. I figured that I would get better as soon as my medication reached a "clinical dosage" whatever that means. Needless to say I never reached it. As I dealt with my infirmity I happened to notice that there are quite a few people who use canes. "Maybe this will not be so bad?" I told myself.
I finally decided the time had come to do what was best for myself. I got the cane and it is not so bad. I actually walk better than before. My posture is much better as well. I am slower now, especially due to my getting used to using it, but I am a fast learner. Could it be that what seemed so horrible might actually be good for me? A cane, maybe? Brussels sprouts, no way!
My point is, and I do have one, is that we must sometimes put aside our pride and take a leap of faith. I am not alone when it comes to those who must compensate for what their bodies lack. Wheelchairs, walkers and other devices enable us to still reach our full potentials. I am trying not to see the cane as emasculating but as empowering. People actually seem to show more respect toward me and allow me to get to where I need to go.
It is always hard to get older. It is hard to accept that time is not a kind mistress. We all must face this fact or hide in a corner and wait for death's arrival. Please do whatever you must to make your life better. Be it a cane, a prescription medication or better reading glasses. The sooner you do the happier you will be as you go back to doing what makes you happy. Who knows? Maybe with my new cane I will become the first Jewish pimp? Right on!
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